necco wafers, tootsie rolls, pepper and egg sandwiches, chipped beef on toast, coffee jello, split pea soup, hermit cookies… what do these foods have in common? well, for one thing, they are all foods that i don’t like much. also, they were some of my mother favorites (i’m sure there is something very freudian in that admission). Her birthday was march 13, and if she hadn’t been dead since 1996, she’d have turned 70. do your loved ones that have died live on in your memory in the context of food, as do mine? well-known grief expert elizabeth kubler-ross states that “Mourning can go on for years and years. It doesn’t end after a year: that’s a false fantasy.” how much more pleasant are the memories when viewed through the lens of one’s own (or her own!) preferred foods? i say: much more!
here’s elizabeth kubler-ross’ website: http://www.ekrfoundation.org/